"Here's what I do when a Person of Colour or an Indigenous person calls me out (in the non-duelling sense):
1. Assume they're speaking in good faith because they know more about racism than I do. Too many of us whites are convinced we know more about racism than the people who actually experience it. We don't. Even those of us with PhDs on the subject. Someone saying something mean about us because we're white is not the same as systemic racism.
2. Listen. That uncomfortable feeling? I've learnt that it's a good thing. I no longer run away from it.
3. Learn. This is the part where I figure out why the criticism is making me feel uncomfortable. Always remembering that feeling uncomfortable is nothing compared to being subjected to racism. Discomfort isn't lethal.
4. Assume that the calling out is not about me but about making the world a less racist, more equitable place.
5. Do what I can to make the world a less racist, more equitable place. Obviously, this is the hardest part."
Justine Larbalestier. “On White Fragility, by Guest Blogger Justine Larbalestier.” Reading While White, 1 Aug. 2016, http://readingwhilewhite.blogspot.com/2016/08/on-white-fragility-by-guest-blogger.html. Accessed 3 Jan. 2019.
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